What to Expect at Your First AA Meeting
Taking the first step to attend an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting can feel daunting. If you’re considering going to your first AA meeting, you likely have a lot of questions and maybe some apprehension about what it will be like. This blog post will walk you through what you can typically expect at an AA meeting to help ease your mind and prepare you for this important step in your recovery journey.
The Basics of AA Meetings
Alcoholics Anonymous is a worldwide organization of people who have had a drinking problem. It is nonprofessional, self-supporting, multiracial, apolitical, and available almost everywhere. There are no age or education requirements. Membership is open to anyone who wants to do something about their drinking problem.
AA meetings come in different formats, but they all share the common goal of helping alcoholics achieve and maintain sobriety. Meetings typically last about an hour and are usually held in community centers, churches, or other public spaces. Some key things to know:
• Meetings are free to attend. There may be a voluntary collection to cover expenses, but you are not required to contribute.
• You don’t need to sign up or register in advance. You can simply show up.
• You don’t have to speak if you don’t want to. It’s perfectly okay to just listen.
• Meetings are confidential. What’s said in the meeting stays in the meeting.
Types of AA Meetings
There are several different types of AA meetings you may encounter:
1. Open meetings: Anyone interested in AA is welcome to attend, including family members or friends of alcoholics.
2. Closed meetings: Only for those who have a desire to stop drinking.
3. Speaker meetings: One or more members share their experiences with alcohol and their recovery in AA.
4. Discussion meetings: A topic is introduced, and members take turns sharing their thoughts.
5. Big Book meetings: Focused on reading and discussing the AA Big Book.
6. Step meetings: Centered on the 12 Steps of AA.
7. Newcomer meetings: Designed specifically for people new to AA.
What Happens at a Typical AA Meeting
While each meeting may have its own unique flavor, most follow a similar general structure:
1. Opening: The meeting usually starts with a moment of silence followed by the Serenity Prayer. The chairperson will then welcome everyone and may read AA’s preamble.
2. Introductions: Members typically introduce themselves by their first name only, often followed by “and I’m an alcoholic.” As a newcomer, you can simply say, “I’m [your name], and I’m here to listen.”
3. Readings: Short passages from AA literature are often read aloud by volunteers.
4. Main portion: This varies depending on the meeting type. It might involve a speaker sharing their story, a group discussion, or reading from the Big Book.
5. Sharing: In many meetings, members have the opportunity to share their experiences, strengths, and hopes related to their alcoholism and recovery.
6. Closing: The meeting usually ends with announcements, a reminder of AA’s tradition of anonymity, and often the Lord’s Prayer or Serenity Prayer.
What to Bring
You don’t need to bring anything special to an AA meeting. Some people like to bring:
• A notebook and pen to take notes
• Money for the voluntary collection (completely optional)
• AA literature if you have it, though this is usually provided
What to Wear
There’s no dress code for AA meetings. Wear whatever makes you comfortable. Most people dress casually, as they would for any other everyday activity.
Atmosphere and Etiquette
AA meetings are generally warm and welcoming environments. Here are some things to keep in mind:
• Arrive on time or a few minutes early.
• Turn off your cell phone or put it on silent.
• Listen respectfully when others are sharing.
• Don’t interrupt or offer unsolicited advice to others.
• What’s shared in the meeting is confidential. Don’t discuss other members’ shares outside the meeting.
• It’s okay to pass if you don’t want to share.
Common Concerns and Questions
Will I have to speak?
No, you are not required to speak at AA meetings. Many newcomers prefer to just listen at first, and that’s perfectly acceptable.
Do I have to believe in God?
While AA has spiritual elements, it is not affiliated with any religion. The concept of a “Higher Power” in AA can be interpreted in many ways, and atheists and agnostics are welcome in AA. The focus is on recovery, not religious beliefs.
Will I be labeled an alcoholic?
Only you can decide if you’re an alcoholic. AA members typically introduce themselves as alcoholics, but as a newcomer, you’re not expected to do this if you’re not comfortable with it.
What if I see someone I know?
Remember that everyone at the meeting is there for the same reason. AA emphasizes anonymity, so what happens in the meeting stays in the meeting.
What if I’m not sure I have a problem with alcohol?
You’re welcome to attend open AA meetings even if you’re not sure you have a problem. Many people attend to learn more about alcoholism and decide if AA might be helpful for them.
After the Meeting
After your first meeting, you might feel a range of emotions – relief, hope, confusion, or even overwhelm. This is normal. Here are some things you can do:
• Stick around after the meeting. Many people socialize and you can ask questions.
• Pick up some AA literature to read at home.
• Get a meeting schedule to find other meetings in your area.
• If comfortable, exchange contact information with someone who offered to be a temporary sponsor or contact.
Remember, recovery is a journey, and attending your first AA meeting is a courageous step. Every AA member has been in your shoes at some point. The support and understanding you’ll find in AA can be a powerful tool in your recovery.
Attending your first AA meeting can feel intimidating, but knowing what to expect can help ease your anxiety. Remember, AA meetings are filled with people who understand what you’re going through and want to support your recovery. Whether you decide AA is right for you or not, taking this step shows your commitment to addressing your relationship with alcohol.
If you’re struggling with alcohol, remember that help is available. AA is just one of many resources for those seeking recovery. Don’t hesitate to reach out to healthcare professionals, counselors, or other support groups if you need assistance.
Your journey to recovery is personal, and it starts with one brave step. Whether that step is an AA meeting or another form of support, you’re moving in the right direction. Be proud of yourself for seeking help and know that a sober, fulfilling life is possible.